So, I had a conversation with a close friend of mine about how it hurts my feelings when I do things for others but they aren't there when I need them. Or how they do things that I feel go against our friendship. I made myself a promise from now on not to let the actions of others hurt my feelings. I'm going to be more in control of my feelings and how I let others actions affect me.
A couple of days later my friend texted me saying she was tired of always doing for others but they were never available when she needed them. I totally understood where she was coming from. Sometimes we give so much of ourselves to others to the point when we need it, no one is there. It's tiring and draining.
I sat down and analyzed this and it's just who we (my friend and I) are. Sometimes we give so much of ourselves to help those in need or those who can't help themselves even when we are in a place of needing help ourselves. In my time of meditation over this issue I decided to just do what I could do and worry about my own actions. I was not going to let the lack of support from others put me in a negative place. I'm not the type of person to sit around angry or mad all the time and I was not going to start now.
So, I told my friend how I started handling things in hopes that during her meditation she could come to peace with the situation like I had. I've started to venture out more on my own in hopes of meeting new people.
You also have to realize that you have different friends that bring different things to your friendship. Eveyone is not for every adventure you embark upon in life.
If you have to pull back and reevaluate the situation by all means do so. Your peace and happiness comes first in every type of relationship/friendship you have with another individual. If you feel like you're always doing most of the work then it's probably a toxic relationship/friendship, especially if you have already discussed your issue with the person at hand. It might be hard to let that person go but don't continue to drag negative weight around.
Remember I LOVE YOU!
A couple of days later my friend texted me saying she was tired of always doing for others but they were never available when she needed them. I totally understood where she was coming from. Sometimes we give so much of ourselves to others to the point when we need it, no one is there. It's tiring and draining.
I sat down and analyzed this and it's just who we (my friend and I) are. Sometimes we give so much of ourselves to help those in need or those who can't help themselves even when we are in a place of needing help ourselves. In my time of meditation over this issue I decided to just do what I could do and worry about my own actions. I was not going to let the lack of support from others put me in a negative place. I'm not the type of person to sit around angry or mad all the time and I was not going to start now.
So, I told my friend how I started handling things in hopes that during her meditation she could come to peace with the situation like I had. I've started to venture out more on my own in hopes of meeting new people.
You also have to realize that you have different friends that bring different things to your friendship. Eveyone is not for every adventure you embark upon in life.
If you have to pull back and reevaluate the situation by all means do so. Your peace and happiness comes first in every type of relationship/friendship you have with another individual. If you feel like you're always doing most of the work then it's probably a toxic relationship/friendship, especially if you have already discussed your issue with the person at hand. It might be hard to let that person go but don't continue to drag negative weight around.
Remember I LOVE YOU!
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