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Who Are You?

From birth until you are maybe a pre-teen you are who your parents molded you to be. Starting around the ages of 11 and 12 you start to grow into your own person. Still holding on to those teachings of your parents or guardians, you also start to learn more about life and the type of person you want to be. So that still leaves the question of, do you know who you truly are?

Fast forward to college and you learned even more new things about yourself. So you adopted some more new ways and let go of old ways. When life after college hit, you started to learn more new things as an adult that would either help or hinder your new stage of life. Then that dreadful day comes where you don't really realize who you are or who you want to be. You've been who your parents raised you to be, who your friends want you to be, and who your job determines you need to be to accurately perform the duties for your title. Lastly, who your significant other would like for you to be so your relationship will work and last. After being who everyone else wants you to be, you stop and ask yourself, Who Am I?

The road to self discovery can come at any time during your life, and while it won't be easy, it is necessary for you to live your life in a way that makes you happy. Face the mirror each morning and make sure the person staring back at you is happy. Take all of your teachings, morals, values, and life learned lessons and determine the type of person you want to be for you. I DEMAND THAT YOU STOP living for your parents, family, job, coworkers, friends, and significant others RIGHT NOW. If you don't, you'll wake up one day and realize life has passed you by and you haven't been living for yourself. Time is precious and you can't get lost time back. If it means cutting people off, finding a new job, or moving somewhere you've always wanted to live, DO IT.

I am currently on this road right now and every day is not easy. Having to cut people off family and old friends hurt but I'm doing what's necessary for KENNEDI to live a more healthy and productive life. The people that are still around don't always like my decisions, but I go to bed feeling at peace because I live each day for me.

I strongly suggest you take some time and discover who you are. What do you want out of life, your career, a significant other, etc.? That way you don't wake up years down the road regretting your life.

Remember I LOVE YOU!

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