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Communication is Key

I'm not very good at communicating my feelings. It has messed me up a time or two in my life.

When I go to my therapy sessions all I do is talk and cry, nose running and everything. I don't know if it was the personality of my previous therapist and the warm friendly personality of my current therapist, but they really got me to open up to them. I feel like my current therapist is really trying to help me with my life and the issues that led me to therapy.

I'm learning more about myself and how to deal with the negative things life throws my way. Every day is not going to be sunny and I'm learning to live in the moment.

Parents you need to learn how to communicate with your children and not just talk at them, listen to what they are saying verbally and physically. In black households you get that " what I say goes, I'm the mama you're the child" so kids tend to hide their feelings inside which can later affect them during the rest of their life. You didn't like it when your parents did it so, stop the cycle and don't continue it with your children.

People talk to your significant other. They can't know your needs, if you don't tell them. Listen to what your significant other is telling you. They wouldn't say anything if it wasn't a problem or issue to them.

I've had plenty of conversations with other females that say they don't know how to convey what they want sexually. First and foremost, from personal experience you have to learn your own body. Just because David didn't need to be taught how to please you, your current lover might need guidance. The same goes for us females, don't be afraid to have this conversation and be left unsatisfied. Don't be mad at them when you haven't told them what you need. Things like this lead to cheating and divorce court.

Leave all judgment out of the bedroom. Whatever you and your partner like is between you and your partner. Be open minded to trying new things. I know as southern Christian girls, we are taught to be prim and proper, but times are changing. If you like something wild and kinky then that's just what you like, don't feel nasty or dirty. Sex is supposed to be a beautiful thing shared between people who care and love each other.

If you have some issues that hinder your relationship with other people, no matter who the other person is FIX IT. Communication is a part of our everyday lives. We have to learn to communicate properly with one another or we create more problems and issues then the cycle continues.

Nowadays, I'm all about breaking cycles and generational curses. Nothing but peace and prosperity from here until the end of time.

Remember I LOVE YOU!

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