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Parents all your kids want is an apology

I know there’s no how-to book for parenting or exact guidelines on how to be a good parent, but as you grow & learn from your mistakes you should talk these things out with your child(ren). That old saying I’m the parent & you are the child just do as I say is the reason we keep carrying these curses from generation to generation.   As you became a parent you should have remembered the things you didn’t like that your parents did to you & not repeat these things with your offsprings. That “it was how I was raised” is not always the right way. As the book of life tells us when you know better you do better. So I’m sure there are things you know you could have done better than your parents. For the unnecessary situations or harm you brought to your child, for the lies & broken promises, for abandoning them, for the abuse, or for the early introduction to drugs, alcohol, and/or sex APOLOGIZE.  Since a lot of these generational curses are still being passe...

Okay Is Not Okay

"How are you doing? How are you feeling today?" When someone answers these questions with, I'm okay or I'm good or I'm fine, THEY ARE NOT AND I REPEAT THEY ARE NOT FINE, GOOD, OR OKAY.  Personally, I know I'm guilty of answering like this. I don't always want to discuss my feelings or talk about what is bothering me. I don't like feeling useless or helpless. I don't want others pity. It's a mental thing for me. Some people are just naturally private about their personal matters. As a good friend or person just let that other person know you are there for them whenever they need you. It's good to know you have someone in your corner when you feel alone or when you are going through something in life. Remember I LOVE YOU!!!

What's Real

In a world where reality TV and social media reigns, most don't know what's real and what's fake. We live behind memes, filters, and gifs so we don't have to face reality. And the reality is not backstabbing your friends or sleeping with your girl or homeboy better half. Nor is having a bunch of kids and not taking care of them. Put down your phone, cut off your tv and communicate with those around you. Get our villages and family structures back in the black communities. There are no blessings in drama. How much success will you have if you hurt your sisters and brothers to get to the top? It's not fun if you have no one to enjoy it with. Disconnect from what society tells you, you should have and be doing at this point in your life. God knew you from the end to the beginning. He's an awesome God and He makes no mistakes. So, merge back into your lane and let God guide your steering wheel to where it's supposed to go. Don't worry about those driving t...

Communication is Key

I'm not very good at communicating my feelings. It has messed me up a time or two in my life. When I go to my therapy sessions all I do is talk and cry, nose running and everything. I don't know if it was the personality of my previous therapist and the warm friendly personality of my current therapist, but they really got me to open up to them. I feel like my current therapist is really trying to help me with my life and the issues that led me to therapy. I'm learning more about myself and how to deal with the negative things life throws my way. Every day is not going to be sunny and I'm learning to live in the moment. Parents you need to learn how to communicate with your children and not just talk at them, listen to what they are saying verbally and physically. In black households you get that " what I say goes, I'm the mama you're the child" so kids tend to hide their feelings inside which can later affect them during the rest of their life. ...