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How many of you in your 30s can say your parent(s) sat you down and had “the bird & the bees talk” with you? If you are one of the lucky few, I applaud your parents. Not many parents know how to or feel comfortable talking to their kids about sex. They don’t know the right age to have the talk or they assume if they have the talk with you, you will want to start having sex. It is not an easy subject to address or you can never really know the right time to have it. But IT NEEDS TO BE HAD! With everything going on in the streets today it is better you teach your kids then they learn from their friends or strangers. In the black community we just get told you better not bring no baby home or you are going to be an adult your childhood will be over. Or when we come home with kids at young ages most parents try to play the baby off as theirs. This is teaching us nothing but how to lie and be deceitful. I applaud those who were teenage parents and made it work. To go against all o...

So I got a new job in another state. Daily I was experiencing every emotion known to mankind during my move. I had a few things to finish back home before I made my new move. We threw my grandmother a surprise 80th birthday party. Which we killed & she LOVED it!!! Then I had to go back & finish packing up my apartment. You never know how much stuff you have until it’s time to move. I donated so many items to less fortunate people I don’t know where all of those things had fit into my one bedroom. I was jumping through hoops to finish all of my requirements for my upcoming job. A background check, a drug screen, a physical you name it I had to complete it. My window of time was closing down I was stressed, nervous, scared, & excited. I was stressed because moving is stressful but moving to a new state is worse. Nervous because starting over always plays on your nerves. Scared because I was leaving my comfort zone. Excited for the new opportunities that awaited me in my...

Recently I went to see the movie Kinky with actors Vivica A. Fox, Robert Richard, Dawn Richard, Gary Dourdan, and more. Let's talk about the elephant in the room. Most women don't know what they want in the bedroom or they are afraid to ask for what they want for fear of being labeled a hoe or freak. So, we end up sexually frustrated on top of everything else going on in our daily lives. If we can take charge in the OR room, courtroom, and classrooms we can take charge in OUR BEDROOMS. No one deserves to leave the bed unfulfilled. It's okay to watch porn or buy some toys to help spice up things to help get you to the finish line. We as women also must get out of our heads. Sex for us is tied to our emotions. Whether you want to accept it or not we are emotional beings. If he has pissed you off or you are angry at your partner that orgasm is going to be even harder to reach. Fix the internal issues before trying to change the sexual issues. There is sex therapist avail...

God created Eve to help Adam. We were created to coexist with each other. I never understood why people say they are just going to be alone. God wanted us to procreate and multiply. It's mainly because of the experiences that males or females have been through to make them say that, but deep down I don't believe they truly want to be alone. Yes, we may all have times where we don't want to be bothered but we are meant to love and break bread with one another. You must fix your personal issues and deal with your past before you can give yourself entirely to someone else. If you are already married or in a long-term relationship, be open to fixing problems that arise during your relationship. Deal with that abuse, molestation, or abandonment and this goes for males and females. Yes males y'all have feelings you need to deal with also. We don't expect y'all to carry the world on your shoulders. We are here to help. If you can't give your all to the one you ...

There have been plenty of days when I prayed and cried. I just felt like I wasn't going to see the end of the tunnel any time soon. The Lord has brought me out of plenty of dark times, so I know He can and I know He will. It's just the part about keeping the faith and trusting and believing He won't ever fail you. Waiting can be hard and if you are like me you have very little patience. Believe me there were plenty of times when I had to just stop and call on the name of Jesus because I felt like I was one breath away from being committed into a mental institution. It's something about the name of Jesus and when you call on Him, He will make everything alright. If it's truly worth having or if the Lord says it's for you, endure the storm and pain a little while longer. The sun will shine so much brighter once you come out of the rain. PRAY during those dark hard lonely nights. When you feel like a fish out of water PRAY! Cry, scream, and shout if you must ...

It takes a village to raise a child. Nowadays we as black people are in competition with each other too much to help each other out. There isn't much reaching back and bringing up our fellow brothers/sisters and too many don't want people to take their spotlight. Oh, what we could all learn from each other if we just work together. There is strength in numbers and until we realize it, we won't prosper as our ancestors fought for us to. During slavery our people had so little, but they had their faith, songs, and each other. How many of you can truly say you have a solid support system to boost you up or pray with you when times get hard? Every time I've leveled up, I always told the people I was leaving behind if there is a position or stepping stone for you where I am going I will be sure to let you know. I don't mind sharing recruiters or resources I want us all to WIN. This leads me to my point of this blog blended families. Everyone I know with a blended f...

I'm not very good at communicating my feelings. It has messed me up a time or two in my life. When I go to my therapy sessions all I do is talk and cry, nose running and everything. I don't know if it was the personality of my previous therapist and the warm friendly personality of my current therapist, but they really got me to open up to them. I feel like my current therapist is really trying to help me with my life and the issues that led me to therapy. I'm learning more about myself and how to deal with the negative things life throws my way. Every day is not going to be sunny and I'm learning to live in the moment. Parents you need to learn how to communicate with your children and not just talk at them, listen to what they are saying verbally and physically. In black households you get that " what I say goes, I'm the mama you're the child" so kids tend to hide their feelings inside which can later affect them during the rest of their life. ...